Core belief: I am not accepted unless I am perfect.
Habit: Heavy self-criticism which leads to external criticism
Trust Practice: Practice gentleness and acceptance of self and others in all situations.
Core belief: To be loved I must meet the needs of others.
Habit: Seeking approval and likability/loveability from outside creating neediness
Trust Practice: Practice giving and receiving approval and validation from within.
Core belief: I am rewarded for doing, not being.
Habit: Chameleon-like image to obtain accolades or feel successful
Trust Practice: Practice loving self for being.
Core belief: I am deficient and lacking, leading to fear of abandonment.
Habit: Creating image of specialness to avoid feeling deeply flawed
Trust Practice: Practice appreciating the beauty and what is present within self.
Core belief: The world and others demand too much from me.
Habit: Managing energy and withholding from self and others
Trust Practice: Practice remembering that energy is abundant and infinitely replenished.
Core belief: The world is a dangerous place and I am not safe and secure.
Habit: Doubting and questioning self and others
Trust Practice: Practice listening to inner authority.
Core belief: The world is limiting and too painful.
Habit: Difficulty staying constant with self and others due to fear of being limited
Trust Practice: Practice remembering that constancy in each moment is what creates options.
Core belief: The world is unjust and power-imbalanced.
Habit: Fear that others will try to control me, threatening my innocence
Trust Practice: Practice slowing down and allowing, relaxing into innocence.
Core belief: I must avoid conflicts at all costs to be ok.
Habit: Blending in and neglecting priorities for self
Trust Practice: Practice standing up and speaking up for yourself.
Dr. Deborah Ooten is the founder and director of the Conscious Living Center.