“Love is the only way to grasp another human being in the innermost core of his personality. No one can become fully aware of the very essence of another human being unless he loves him. By his love he is enabled to see the essential traits and features in the beloved person; and even more, he sees that which is potential in him, which is not yet actualized but ought to be actualized. Furthermore, by his love, the loving person enables the beloved person to actualize these potentialities. By making him aware of what he can be and of what he should become, he makes these potentialities come true.”
― Viktor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning
Once upon a time in a far-off land 2 beautiful beings met. One was divine black being (Mama Coco) and one was a divine white being (Gaga Lala). A magical box called a Xerox machine brought them together. It was apparently a box that made magical noises and you could put your face on it and feel a bright light all while getting your picture taken!
These 2 beings instantly bonded and fell deeply in love. And became best friends forever.
Just a few months later Prince Beau was born to Mama Coco. And just a few months after that Princess Mary was born to Gaga Lala. And just a few years before, my Mommy, Princess Catherine was born. I must mention her because, well, she is my Mommy and all 3 of these new little beings grew up together. And they are all my family.
And the rest is history.
“When children hear a story aloud, they must use their imagination to make a picture of it for themselves.”
Madame Jean De Salzman from
The forgotten Language of Children
Dear Mama Coco,
Fast forward to present day. And the world is in chaos.
I hold so much love in my heart for you. I do see color when I look at you. I also see a pure heart, a deep luminous divine being and a beautiful friend.
To say she did not see color would “negate the existence of color” (Mama Coco).
I have not seen you, Mama Coco, in a couple of years. I am now almost 4 years old, so I was a baby in this picture. But Lala talks about you all the time and tells stories. I really do not understand what Lala is talking about most times unless it is about bubbles or the time Lala threatened to bite a truck driver? My Daddy drives a truck so why would Lala want to bite him? But by her laugh, as she tells the stories I know you and she have had good times together. I know that you taught my Mommy to dance, ON STAGE. Lala did not think it was possible but leave it to you, Mama Coco, and magic happens.
I also see Lala cry a lot in these last few weeks. I give her hugs and kisses all the time. Mama Coco, Lala wants to fiercely protect you. You and your sisters and brothers. You are not here with us; you are too far away in Florida. So, instead, we must hold you, at a distance, in our hearts.
We, Lala, and me, know this experience of whiteness. And the time is now to understand the experience of blackness. You know where we are going Mama Coco.
Black Lives Matter.
Black Lives Matter and white folks should understand that you and your brothers and sisters “were born into a life of heavy disappointment.” *
Black Lives Matter and you and your brothers and sisters are fighting for your lives, especially during this pandemic, without getting proper medical attention.
Black Lives Matter and white people need to know that “the mind is the enemy of liberation…do not bypass your feelings…face the discomfort…” *
Black Lives Matter so, white people, before you start to share YOUR opinions first ask for “consent from your black friend/friends. Ask them, how are you? How is your heart?” * And do not listen to respond. Just listen with your heart.
And, so, Dear Mama Coco, we will learn from you and your brothers and sisters during this time of chaos.
Holding you close. Always and everywhere.
Love Hudson and Lala.
In Love Always,
Your child, ages 10 and over, can take a fun and interactive enneagram test on our website: n-1games.com/
Cathryn S. Hudson (Gaga Lala) works with the Conscious Living Center, The School of Conscious Living and Conscious Dynamics. She is a certified teacher in the narrative tradition of the Enneagram from the School of Conscious Living and holds a BS degree from the University of Cincinnati from the School of Design, Art, Architecture and Planning.
*From Lama Rod Owens podcast